This could be stupid.

Since seeing Dr. Eckwalanga I've been perfectly fine with my decision to go ahead and have the stitch done..until tonight. I have actually started to re-consider it. Owen and I were talking, and I put a lot of un-due stress on myself last fall when we were in Amsterdam and Paris. I was doing 6+ hours of walking a day, lugging Tash around, lugging her stroller, going up and down stairs and escalators and really not giving myself a break at all.

So what if this time around I did more resting, more off my feet, no lifting, not lugging, put my feet up..Could it make a difference? I guess the thing that just really hit home about the whole thing is Dr. Eckwalanga being very honest when she said "putting in this stitch will not prevent labour". You see, a little over 6m ago, in my grieve, I did some googling and I thought that by having the stitch in, it would prevent labour. I knew it stregthened my cervix, but I assumed foolishly that it would also prevent labour.

Now that I've had a few days since my appointment to digest everything, I'm wondering how much having the stitch put in will increase my chances of not going into labour again or if the risk will still remain the same? If the stitch goes in and a month labour I go into labour, they will have to take it out and let things progress. So I guess in my thinking, it seems like a waste of resources, extra digging around up there that I don't want happening (there are risks involved) and well, maybe, I could do without it.

My sister's friend has an incompetant cervix and she has had 3 successful pregnancies.

My friend Joanie had similar issues with all 3 of her pg. With her first she was put off work at about 20 odd weeks, not really bed rest but she did have to go every couple weeks to have her cervix measured. She delivered Ethan at about 38 wks. With her 2^nd, Kersten she had contractions from about 20 odd weeks, she was on reduced hours and moderate rest for the pg and delivered her at 35. Then with her 3^rd she had problems beginning at 13 wks and was on bed rest from 20 odd wks until 32 wks – they said she would deliver within days and Payten was born at 38 wks as well. SO…. Nature does what it does and I know that it is stressful.

Sooo she did it w/o the stitch, if I just relax and take it easy, perhaps it would all work out for me too?

I have my follow up with Dr. Eckwalanga to review my u/s results on the 27th. I talk to her more in depth about it then.