The decision has been made.

After having many many conversations on this topic, Owen and I have decided not to go with a midwife. Owen is not comfortable with the idea. This basically translates to him not being comfortable with the cost. We have the savings and even if we did not, we could afford the payments, but he does not feel comfortable with putting out that much money for a service he feels I should just get for "free" through the Maternity Care Clinic.

To say I am disappointed would be an understatement. At the same time though, I have to respect Owen's feelings as well. If he wanted to spend $3,500 on something I was not comfortable with, I fell he would respect my choice on the matter as well and not spend the money on whatever it was he wanted.

We reached a compromise that we'd get a doula when the time comes. And since the post partum part (retained placenta, breastfeeding, mine and baby's care) is the biggest part I'm most concerned with, he agreed we could also use a Post Partum Doula. I have no idea on the cost of a PP Doula, but for some reason I feel that hiring a Doula ($800 approx.) and then having a Post Partum Doula is going to be expensive as well. But Owen has it in his mind that it will be half the cost when he's not even researched the costs of the service.

We still have 1.5 more months before we start seriously TTC, so lots of time, but I know Owen won't change his mind on a midwife, I can tell when he's going to cave, and in this case he's not going to.